Cheryl B – a FCW TRIBUTE!

When I moved to NYC in the early 90s, I was fortunate enough to meet some fucking cool women within the first year I was living there. One of those women was Cheryl B.

Those first few years living in the city that I spent my entire life dreaming about can sometimes be a blur – I was in my early 30s, living in the East Village, calling myself ‘queer’, hanging out with girl rock bands, watching underground performances in smelly basements, holiday parties in my 11th St apt and being inspired to live my life as an artist!!

As the years past and as we got older and started to evolve/transform our lives as humans do, I have always been grateful to have stayed in touch with Cheryl. She attended many of the early FCW Society brunches and I believe if my memory is correct, came to the last one I had in NYC before I left last spring.

Cheryl’s writing was smart, edgy, honest and feminist – all of the attributes of a fucking cool women. As I looked at her website today, I am so impressed with the body of work she gave to the world. Ranging from solo performances, published author and producers of some pretty amazing shows including PVC: The Poetry vs. Comedy Variety Show. I’m not always a fan of seeing live poetry readings or stand up comedy – but Cheryl with Carolyn Castiglia was ONE of the BEST LIVE PERFORMANCES that the Bowery Poetry Club has ever had. (in my opinion!!)

Cheryl died this morning from cancer, she is actually the first women I’ve known personally to die from this disease. Which I find pretty strange since there are so many women who have cancer in our country. One reason I believe I don’t know so many is because I’ve always surrounded myself with fucking cool women — and I read something once that women who have strong relationships with other women tend to have healthier bodies.

Why does someone who is so amazing as Cheryl who was surrounded by so many amazing women (& MEN!!) get this kind of disease?! As humans we want to know the answers — as a spiritual being we know that this is part of our journey … Cheryl’s spirit in human form has been such a great gift to so many of humans. I’m sure her girlfriend, Kelli can truly agree with this as well as be mourning the loss of her “fucking cool girlfriend” — my love goes to you right now! You were such an amazing support system for Cheryl and her spirit thanks you!!

And for the spirit energy that once filled the human body of Cheryl Burke — this energy source is now part of the angelic realm helping all of us with this transformation of our consciousness!

Thank you for being a fucking cool woman !!

Magic Passion Love & Cheryl B!

From Cheryl’s blog

It’s National Poetry Month and I’ve decided to take up the 30 poems in 30 days challenge.

Here’s my first shot:

Overcast

Outside, the couple fights in the parking lot again
The man holds the woman by the arm, then by the hair
Adults walk by and do nothing
I watch from the kitchen window, a live horror show on a gray day and wonder who I will be when I am her age

We don’t get involved, my parents tell me in the middle of their own indoor screaming
Close the curtain, my father says
It’s time to eat, my mother adds
An egg breaks on the floor
The yolk slides off my mother’s sponge and falls once more
We all laugh, a break in tension, before they start in again

Here’s a flier my sister sent me – “oh, those were the days!!”

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FCW June Brunch on Tybee Island!!!

If you have ever been to a FCW Society brunch, then you will understand why I’m posting my sincere gratitude for all of the FCW out there who gather with one another as FCW Society members… I’m always amazed on meeting MORE fcw each time!! Tonight was no exception – first at the Dragonfly, 5 women showed up and then later watching the sunset with another group of FCW — I was reminded once again why I honor & celebrate how fucking cool women are!! and that I am one and so are you — let’s honor & celebrate ourselves – the world needs our powerful energy on its side!

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Eryka Peskin is a Financial Social Worker. She helps people uncover their money genius and identify strategies so they can get to a place of confidence to take the next best step(s) for themselves and their finances. If you are ready to take your life, your finances, and your world to the next level, go to www.financialsocialworker.webs.com.

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Are you maximizing your biggest asset? Do you know what your biggest asset is?

Let me tell you something about myself. I am a world-class procrastinator. If there was an Olympic medal for procrastinating, I’d have won a gold medal. Several, actually!

What makes me feel slightly better about this is that I don’t seem to be the only one. Practically every coaching email I’ve gotten since 2011 began (and I’m on lots and lots of mailing lists) has been about procrastination. (At least I think so. I’ve been procrastinating about reading them, but “procrastinate” is often in the subject line. J)

People procrastinate for lots of reasons. The reasons that have come up most often in my financial social work and financial planning practices are:

* paralyzed perfectionism: people don’t want to do something wrong, so they end up not doing anything at all
* unpleasantness avoidance: you think that whatever needs to be done is unpleasurable, and who wants to do what’s unpleasurable? So you don’t do it/deal with it/think about it.

Aside from how procrastination might not serve you in other parts of your life, with money (and I have oodles of stories attesting to this), I can tell you that:

When dealing with your money, procrastinating is one of the most effective ways of guaranteeing that you will NOT be financially independent.

Let me say that in another way: if you procrastinate in dealing with your money, you DIRECTLY impact your ability to be financially independent.

Sorry for the tough love, but, alas, my friends, it’s true.

And now let me say it in a more positive and empowering way: if you act proactively when dealing with your money, you are on the path to achieving financial independence.

Why?

Okay, now I’m going to go into some “money talk.” Don’t give in to the urge to skip it…this could transform your life. It changed mine.

What’s your biggest asset?
For years, we’ve been told that the best and biggest asset is to own a home. Au contraire, my friends. Unless you own your home outright (no mortgage) OR your home brings in enough income (rental income, etc) to cover the costs of mortgage and repairs, your home is not an asset. It is actually a liability.

This may be hard for some of you to read, particularly since US culture has pretty much pounded into our heads that owning a home = asset = the American Dream. Sorry.

But!

I am SO pleased to tell you that you DO have assets. One of your main assets is your time horizon.

What’s my time horizon, you ask? Well, your time horizon, quite simply, is the amount of time you have left in your life. Obviously we don’t know how long we’ll be here, and once a second has passed, you can’t get it back.

How could that possibly be an asset? Because what’s under your control is how (or if) you maximize the time you have left.

Procrastinating is a sure-fire way to ensure that you squander one of your most powerful assets.

When it comes to growing your money, time can be your ally…and it can also be your enemy. You want to make your time work for you, not against you. And you want to make it work for you in the most efficient way possible.

Here’s how: Have you ever heard of something called “The Rule of 72”?

The Rule of 72 is a handy tool that tells you roughly how long it’ll take your money to double at a certain interest rate.

Uh oh, word alert! Okay, what’s interest? Interest is, simply, the rate at which your money grows. If you have $100 and get 4% interest, you’ll have $104. If you get 6%, $106, and so on. (There are different kinds of interest. For these purposes, we’re talking about compound interest, where your interest earns interest.)

So to figure out roughly how long it’ll take your money to double, you take 72 and divide it by the interest rate, and that’s about how long. So, 72 divided by 4% = 18 years. Yup, your money will double every 18 years (ish).

If you get a higher interest rate, say 8% (which is less than the stock market has averaged over the last 15 years), your money will double every 9 years.

Let’s illustrate this. Say you’re 30 and start off with $5000. If you get 4% every year, at 48 years old, you’ll have $10,000. 18 years later, you’ll be 66 and you’ll have $20,000.

Better than nothing, right? True, but inflation is at 4%, so you’re basically staying even.

And another word alert! What’s inflation? Inflation is basically an increase in prices. Another way to think of it: with inflation, everything gets more valuable except money.

Now, let’s get you a better interest rate and say you’re earning 8%. Same scenario. You’re 30 and start off with $5000. But now, your money is doubling every 9 years, instead of 18. So when you’re $39, you’ve got $10,000, and when you’re 48 you’ve got $20,000, and so on, so that when you’re 66, you have $80,000.

$80,000 is more than $20,000, right? Which would you rather retire on? Um, neither. Neither is sufficient, but $80K is way better than $20K, right?

Now, how does this work if you keep your money under the mattress, earning 0%? What’s 72 x 0? Exactly zero, honey. Your money will NEVER grow. And keeping your money in a savings account earning .50% is better than nothing…barely…but at that rate it’ll take your money 144 years to double. (Not a typo!) So while yes, you need some liquid to take care of daily living and emergencies, that should not be where the bulk of your money lives.

I could go on and on about this, because I think it’s awesome. The main point I want you to take away from this is that the Rule of 72 helps you see that if you procrastinate, you turn one of your biggest allies into a…not ally.

The longer you wait, the less time you give your money to double. The less time you give your money to double, the less it’ll grow. And the less likely it is you’ll be financially independent.

Time is one thing you can’t buy more of…and we don’t know how much is left to us. So maximize your time horizon by acting.

If you don’t see the power of this, then I didn’t explain it clearly and we need to meet. I have many charts and graphs to help make it clearer. Or, if you do see the power but don’t know what to do next, then we still need to meet.

In case you couldn’t tell, I get really excited by all this. And I get excited about helping you figure out and overcome just why you’re procrastinating when it comes to dealing with your money. Are you a paralyzed perfectionist? You don’t want to do it “wrong”, so you do nothing at all? Or do you find this so thoroughly unpleasant to deal with your $$ that you’d rather not deal with it at all?

I can help you with both. I can help you maximize one of your greatest assets: your time horizon. And I want to tell you about your other assets, too—you have them!

Explore your procrastinate-y-ness:

* Take 10 minutes and journal about “procrastination.”
* If you’re a procrastinator extraordinaire, figure out what kind and why. Are you a paralyzed perfectionist or do you avoid discomfort? How has this served you in the past? Is it still serving you or would you like to learn differen strategies to meet your needs for perfection and/or pleasure?
* Have you set goals in the past but not met them? How does it feel when you meet a goal? And how do you feel about yourself when you don’t?
* Your resistance is beautiful because it can teach you something soooo important about yourself. The trick is to see through the resistance to the other side, because often, what you’re most resistant to is EXACTLY what would catapult you to the next level.

photo by Patricia Geremia

* http://www.ruby-kate.com

Sisters on the Fly are FCW!!

It was so awesome to meet so many FCW on Saturday, April 9 at Rivers End Campground in Tybee Island, GA. There were about 100 women traveling together as SISTERS ON THE FLY.

This is a group of women who enjoy vintage trailers, fishing, camping, open roads and THEIR WOMEN FRIENDSHIPS! Very FCW Society of them… so you know what that means, yep … we’ve just added another group of women to the FCW Society! To hear the women talk about the women they love & admire felt like I was at a FCW Society brunch.

Here’s another video I found on YOUTUBE about the Sisters on the Fly —

and a few pics!!


PRO-CHOICE is the only way to be!

When anti-choice members of Congress voted to bar Planned Parenthood from federal funding, they thought they’d won. But — they were wrong. So very wrong.

They didn’t just underestimate us. They underestimated FUCKING COOL WOMEN and the Men they love!!

Since the vote on February 18, more than 700,000 women and men have signed an open letter to stand with Planned Parenthood against these outrageous attacks. Unbelievable! We’ve made an impact. And, as the Senate considers its course on this legislation, we have the chance to make an even bigger impact. We have a chance to stop it — but Planned Parenthood need OUR help.

On Saturday Feb 26, people all over the country took to the streets for a WALK FOR CHOICE! Check out this website to see photos of what Pro-Choice looks like!
Saturday, February 26th, 12pm.

http://walkforchoice.tumblr.com/

Here’s the picture of the group who walked in Savannah – which I participated in!!

It proved to me yet again that FCW are everywhere!!

Please share this information with your friends… and sign if you haven’t already!!

Did you hear? The House voted to bar Planned Parenthood from federal funding. They cut funding for HIV tests, cancer screenings, birth control, and more, putting millions of women and families at risk. It’s time for you and me to stand with Planned Parenthood. Sign the open letter to the reps who voted for this bill — and to the senators who still have a chance to stop it.
http://www.IStandWithPlannedParenthood.org

“truisms” by fcw jenny holzer

TRUISMS (1978-1983)
JENNY HOLZER

A LITTLE KNOWLEDGE CAN GO A LONG WAY

A LOT OF PROFESSIONALS ARE CRACKPOTS

A MAN CAN’T KNOW WHAT IT IS TO BE A MOTHER

A NAME MEANS A LOT JUST BY ITSELF

A POSITIVE ATTITUDE MEANS ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD

A RELAXED MAN IS NOT NECESSARILY A BETTER MAN

A SENSE OF TIMING IS THE MARK OF GENIUS

A SINCERE EFFORT IS ALL YOU CAN ASK

A SINGLE EVENT CAN HAVE INFINITELY MANY INTERPRETATIONS

A SOLID HOME BASE BUILDS A SENSE OF SELF

A STRONG SENSE OF DUTY IMPRISONS YOU

ABSOLUTE SUBMISSION CAN BE A FORM OF FREEDOM

ABSTRACTION IS A TYPE OF DECADENCE

ABUSE OF POWER COMES AS NO SURPRISE

ACTION CAUSES MORE TROUBLE THAN THOUGHT

ALIENATION PRODUCES ECCENTRICS OR REVOLUTIONARIES

ALL THINGS ARE DELICATELY INTERCONNECTED

AMBITION IS JUST AS DANGEROUS AS COMPLACENCY

AMBIVALENCE CAN RUIN YOUR LIFE

AN ELITE IS INEVITABLE

ANGER OR HATE CAN BE A USEFUL MOTIVATING FORCE

ANIMALISM IS PERFECTLY HEALTHY

ANY SURPLUS IS IMMORAL

ANYTHING IS A LEGITIMATE AREA OF INVESTIGATION

ARTIFICIAL DESIRES ARE DESPOILING THE EARTH

AT TIMES INACTIVITY IS PREFERABLE TO MINDLESS FUNCTIONING

AT TIMES YOUR UNCONSCIOUSNESS IS TRUER THAN YOUR CONSCIOUS MIND

AUTOMATION IS DEADLY

AWFUL PUNISHMENT AWAITS REALLY BAD PEOPLE

BAD INTENTIONS CAN YIELD GOOD RESULTS

BEING ALONE WITH YOURSELF IS INCREASINGLY UNPOPULAR

BEING HAPPY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN ANYTHING ELSE

BEING JUDGMENTAL IS A SIGN OF LIFE

BEING SURE OF YOURSELF MEANS YOU’RE A FOOL

BELIEVING IN REBIRTH IS THE SAME AS ADMITTING DEFEAT

BOREDOM MAKES YOU DO CRAZY THINGS

CALM IS MORE CONDUCTIVE TO CREATIVITY THAN IS ANXIETY

CATEGORIZING FEAR IS CALMING

CHANGE IS VALUABLE WHEN THE OPPRESSED BECOME TYRANTS

CHASING THE NEW IS DANGEROUS TO SOCIETY

CHILDREN ARE THE MOST CRUEL OF ALL

CHILDREN ARE THE HOPE OF THE FUTURE

CLASS ACTION IS A NICE IDEA WITH NO SUBSTANCE

CLASS STRUCTURE IS AS ARTIFICIAL AS PLASTIC

CONFUSING YOURSELF IS A WAY TO STAY HONEST

CRIME AGAINST PROPERTY IS RELATIVELY UNIMPORTANT

DECADENCE CAN BE AN END IN ITSELF

DECENCY IS A RELATIVE THING

DEPENDENCE CAN BE A MEAL TICKET

DESCRIPTION IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN METAPHOR

DEVIANTS ARE SACRIFICED TO INCREASE GROUP SOLIDARITY

DISGUST IS THE APPROPRIATE RESPONSE TO MOST SITUATIONS

DISORGANIZATION IS A KIND OF ANESTHESIA

DON’T PLACE TO MUCH TRUST IN EXPERTS

DRAMA OFTEN OBSCURES THE REAL ISSUES

DREAMING WHILE AWAKE IS A FRIGHTENING CONTRADICTION

DYING AND COMING BACK GIVES YOU CONSIDERABLE PERSPECTIVE

DYING SHOULD BE AS EASY AS FALLING OFF A LOG

EATING TOO MUCH IS CRIMINAL

ELABORATION IS A FORM OF POLLUTION

EMOTIONAL RESPONSES AR AS VALUABLE AS INTELLECTUAL RESPONSES

ENJOY YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU CAN’T CHANGE ANYTHING ANYWAY

ENSURE THAT YOUR LIFE STAYS IN FLUX

EVEN YOUR FAMILY CAN BETRAY YOU

EVERY ACHIEVEMENT REQUIRES A SACRIFICE

EVERYONE’S WORK IS EQUALLY IMPORTANT

EVERYTHING THAT’S INTERESTING IS NEW

EXCEPTIONAL PEOPLE DESERVE SPECIAL CONCESSIONS

EXPIRING FOR LOVE IS BEAUTIFUL BUT STUPID

EXPRESSING ANGER IS NECESSARY

EXTREME BEHAVIOR HAS ITS BASIS IN PATHOLOGICAL PSYCHOLOGY

EXTREME SELF-CONSCIOUSNESS LEADS TO PERVERSION

FAITHFULNESS IS A SOCIAL NOT A BIOLOGICAL LAW

FAKE OR REAL INDIFFERENCE IS A POWERFUL PERSONAL WEAPON

FATHERS OFTEN USE TOO MUCH FORCE

FEAR IS THE GREATEST INCAPACITATOR

FREEDOM IS A LUXURY NOT A NECESSITY

GIVING FREE REIN TO YOUR EMOTIONS IS AN HONEST WAY TO LIVE

GO ALL OUT IN ROMANCE AND LET THE CHIPS FALL WHERE THEY MAY

GOING WITH THE FLOW IS SOOTHING BUT RISKY

GOOD DEEDS EVENTUALLY ARE REWARDED

GOVERNMENT IS A BURDEN ON THE PEOPLE

GRASS ROOTS AGITATION IS THE ONLY HOPE

GUILT AND SELF-LACERATION ARE INDULGENCES

HABITUAL CONTEMPT DOESN’T REFLECT A FINER SENSIBILITY

HIDING YOUR EMOTIONS IS DESPICABLE

HOLDING BACK PROTECTS YOUR VITAL ENERGIES

HUMANISM IS OBSOLETE

HUMOR IS A RELEASE

IDEALS ARE REPLACED BY CONVENTIONAL GOALS AT A CERTAIN AGE

IF YOU AREN’T POLITICAL YOUR PERSONAL LIFE SHOULD BE EXEMPLARY

IF YOU CAN’T LEAVE YOUR MARK GIVE UP

IF YOU HAVE MANY DESIRES YOUR LIFE WILL BE INTERESTING

IF YOU LIVE SIMPLY THERE IS NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT

IGNORING ENEMIES IS THE BEST WAY TO FIGHT

ILLNESS IS A STATE OF MIND

IMPOSING ORDER IS MAN’S VOCATION FOR CHAOS IS HELL

IN SOME INSTANCES IT’S BETTER TO DIE THAN TO CONTINUE

INHERITANCE MUST BE ABOLISHED

IT CAN BE HELPFUL TO KEEP GOING NO MATTER WHAT

IT IS HEROIC TO TRY TO STOP TIME

IT IS MAN’S FATE TO OUTSMART HIMSELF

IT IS A GIFT TO THE WORLD NOT TO HAVE BABIES

IT’S BETTER TO BE A GOOD PERSON THAN A FAMOUS PERSON

IT’S BETTER TO BE LONELY THAN TO BE WITH INFERIOR PEOPLE

IT’S BETTER TO BE NAIVE THAN JADED

IT’S BETTER TO STUDY THE LIVING FACT THAN TO ANALYZE HISTORY

IT’S CRUCIAL TO HAVE AN ACTIVE FANTASY LIFE

IT’S GOOD TO GIVE EXTRA MONEY TO CHARITY

IT’S IMPORTANT TO STAY CLEAN ON ALL LEVELS

IT’S JUST AN ACCIDENT THAT YOUR PARENTS ARE YOUR PARENTS

IT’S NOT GOOD TO HOLD TOO MANY ABSOLUTES

IT’S NOT GOOD TO OPERATE ON CREDIT

IT’S VITAL TO LIVE IN HARMONY WITH NATURE

JUST BELIEVING SOMETHING CAN MAKE IT HAPPEN

KEEP SOMETHING IN RESERVE FOR EMERGENCIES

KILLING IS UNAVOIDABLE BUT NOTHING TO BE PROUD OF

KNOWING YOURSELF LETS YOU UNDERSTAND OTHERS

KNOWLEDGE SHOULD BE ADVANCED AT ALL COSTS

LABOR IS A LIFE-DESTROYING ACTIVITY

LACK OF CHARISMA CAN BE FATAL

LEISURE TIME IS A GIGANTIC SMOKE SCREEN

LISTEN WHEN YOUR BODY TALKS

LOOKING BACK IS THE FIRST SIGN OF AGING AND DECAY

LOVING ANIMALS IS A SUBSTITUTE ACTIVITY

LOW EXPECTATIONS ARE GOOD PROTECTION

MANUAL LABOR CAN BE REFRESHING AND WHOLESOME

MEN ARE NOT MONOGAMOUS BY NATURE

MODERATION KILLS THE SPIRIT

MONEY CREATES TASTE

MONOMANIA IS A PREREQUISITE OF SUCCESS

MORALS ARE FOR LITTLE PEOPLE

MOST PEOPLE ARE NOT FIT TO RULE THEMSELVES

MOSTLY YOU SHOULD MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS

MOTHERS SHOULDN’T MAKE TOO MANY SACRIFICES

MUCH WAS DECIDED BEFORE YOU WERE BORN

MURDER HAS ITS SEXUAL SIDE

MYTH CAN MAKE REALITY MORE INTELLIGIBLE

NOISE CAN BE HOSTILE

NOTHING UPSETS THE BALANCE OF GOOD AND EVIL

OCCASIONALLY PRINCIPLES ARE MORE VALUABLE THAN PEOPLE

OFFER VERY LITTLE INFORMATION ABOUT YOURSELF

OFTEN YOU SHOULD ACT LIKE YOU ARE SEXLESS

OLD FRIENDS ARE BETTER LEFT IN THE PAST

OPACITY IS AN IRRESISTIBLE CHALLENGE

PAIN CAN BE A VERY POSITIVE THING

PEOPLE ARE BORING UNLESS THEY ARE EXTREMISTS

PEOPLE ARE NUTS IF THEY THINK THEY ARE IMPORTANT

PEOPLE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT THEY DO UNLESS THEY ARE INSANE

PEOPLE WHO DON’T WORK WITH THEIR HANDS ARE PARASITES

PEOPLE WHO GO CRAZY ARE TOO SENSITIVE

PEOPLE WON’T BEHAVE IF THEY HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE

PHYSICAL CULTURE IS SECOND BEST

PLANNING FOR THE FUTURE IS ESCAPISM

PLAYING IT SAFE CAN CAUSE A LOT OF DAMAGE IN THE LONG RUN

POLITICS IS USED FOR PERSONAL GAIN

POTENTIAL COUNTS FOR NOTHING UNTIL IT’S REALIZED

PRIVATE PROPERTY CREATED CRIME

PURSUING PLEASURE FOR THE SAKE OF PLEASURE WILL RUIN YOU

PUSH YOURSELF TO THE LIMIT AS OFTEN AS POSSIBLE

RAISE BOYS AND GIRLS THE SAME WAY

RANDOM MATING IS GOOD FOR DEBUNKING SEX MYTHS

RECHANNELING DESTRUCTIVE IMPULSES IS A SIGN OF MATURITY

RECLUSES ALWAYS GET WEAK

REDISTRIBUTING WEALTH IS IMPERATIVE

RELATIVITY IS NO BOON TO MANKIND

RELIGION CAUSES AS MANY PROBLEMS AS IT SOLVES

REMEMBER YOU ALWAYS HAVE FREEDOM OF CHOICE

REPETITION IS THE BEST WAY TO LEARN

RESOLUTIONS SERVE TO EASE OUR CONSCIENCE

REVOLUTION BEGINS WITH CHANGES IN THE INDIVIDUAL

ROMANTIC LOVE WAS INVENTED TO MANIPULATE WOMEN

ROUTINE IS A LINK WITH THE PAST

ROUTINE SMALL EXCESSES ARE WORSE THAN THEN THE OCCASIONAL DEBAUCH

SACRIFICING YOURSELF FOR A BAD CAUSE IS NOT A MORAL ACT

SALVATION CAN’T BE BOUGHT AND SOLD

SELF-AWARENESS CAN BE CRIPPLING

SELF-CONTEMPT CAN DO MORE HARM THAN GOOD

SELFISHNESS IS THE MOST BASIC MOTIVATION

SELFLESSNESS IS THE HIGHEST ACHIEVEMENT

SEPARATISM IS THE WAY TO A NEW BEGINNING

SEX DIFFERENCES ARE HERE TO STAY

SIN IS A MEANS OF SOCIAL CONTROL

SLIPPING INTO MADNESS IS GOOD FOR THE SAKE OF COMPARISON

SLOPPY THINKING GETS WORSE OVER TIME

SOLITUDE IS ENRICHING

SOMETIMES SCIENCE ADVANCES FASTER THAN IT SHOULD

SOMETIMES THINGS SEEM TO HAPPEN OF THEIR OWN ACCORD

SPENDING TOO MUCH TIME ON SELF-IMPROVEMENT IS ANTISOCIAL

STARVATION IS NATURE’S WAY

STASIS IS A DREAM STATE

STERILIZATION IS A WEAPON OF THE RULERS

STRONG EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT STEMS FROM BASIC INSECURITY

STUPID PEOPLE SHOULDN’T BREED

SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST APPLIES TO MEN AND ANIMALS

SYMBOLS ARE MORE MEANINGFUL THAN THINGS THEMSELVES

TAKING A STRONG STAND PUBLICIZES THE OPPOSITE POSITION

TALKING IS USED TO HIDE ONE’S INABILITY TO ACT

TEASING PEOPLE SEXUALLY CAN HAVE UGLY CONSEQUENCES

TECHNOLOGY WILL MAKE OR BREAK US

THE CRUELEST DISAPPOINTMENT IS WHEN YOU LET YOURSELF DOWN

THE DESIRE TO REPRODUCE IS A DEATH WISH

THE FAMILY IS LIVING ON BORROWED TIME

THE IDEA OF REVOLUTION IS AN ADOLESCENT FANTASY

THE IDEA OF TRANSCENDENCE IS USED TO OBSCURE OPPRESSION

THE IDIOSYNCRATIC HAS LOST ITS AUTHORITY

THE MOST PROFOUND THINGS ARE INEXPRESSIBLE

THE MUNDANE IS TO BE CHERISHED

THE NEW IS NOTHING BUT A RESTATEMENT OF THE OLD

THE ONLY WAY TO BE PURE IS TO STAY BY YOURSELF

THE SUM OF YOUR ACTIONS DETERMINES WHAT YOU ARE

THE UNATTAINABLE IS INVARIABLE ATTRACTIVE

THE WORLD OPERATES ACCORDING TO DISCOVERABLE LAWS

THERE ARE TOO FEW IMMUTABLE TRUTHS TODAY

THERE’S NOTHING EXCEPT WHAT YOU SENSE

THERE’S NOTHING REDEEMING IN TOIL

THINKING TOO MUCH CAN ONLY CAUSE PROBLEMS

THREATENING SOMEONE SEXUALLY IS A HORRIBLE ACT

TIMIDITY IS LAUGHABLE

TO DISAGREE PRESUPPOSES MORAL INTEGRITY

TO VOLUNTEER IS REACTIONARY

TORTURE IS BARBARIC

TRADING A LIFE FOR A LIFE IS FAIR ENOUGH

TRUE FREEDOM IS FRIGHTFUL

UNIQUE THINGS MUST BE THE MOST VALUABLE

UNQUESTIONING LOVE DEMONSTRATES LARGESSE OF SPIRIT

USING FORCE TO STOP FORCE IS ABSURD

VIOLENCE IS PERMISSIBLE EVEN DESIRABLE OCCASIONALLY

WAR IS A PURIFICATION RITE

WE MUST MAKE SACRIFICES TO MAINTAIN OUR QUALITY OF LIFE

WHEN SOMETHING TERRIBLE HAPPENS PEOPLE WAKE UP

WISHING THINGS AWAY IS NOT EFFECTIVE

WITH PERSEVERANCE YOU CAN DISCOVER ANY TRUTH

WORDS TEND TO BE INADEQUATE

WORRYING CAN HELP YOU PREPARE

YOU ARE A VICTIM OF THE RULES YOU LIVE BY

YOU ARE GUILELESS IN YOUR DREAMS

YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR CONSTITUTING THE MEANING OF THINGS

YOU ARE THE PAST PRESENT AND FUTURE

YOU CAN LIVE ON THROUGH YOUR DESCENDANTS

YOU CAN’T EXPECT PEOPLE TO BE SOMETHING THEY’RE NOT

YOU CAN’T FOOL OTHERS IF YOU’RE FOOLING YOURSELF

YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT’S WHAT UNTIL YOU SUPPORT YOURSELF

YOU HAVE TO HURT OTHERS TO BE EXTRAORDINARY

YOU MUST BE INTIMATE WITH A TOKEN FEW

YOU MUST DISAGREE WITH AUTHORITY FIGURES

YOU MUST HAVE ONE GRAND PASSION

YOU MUST KNOW WHERE YOU STOP AND THE WORLD BEGINS

YOU CAN UNDERSTAND SOMEONE OF YOUR SEX ONLY

YOU OWE THE WORLD NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND

YOU SHOULD STUDY AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE

YOUR ACTIONS AE POINTLESS IF NO ONE NOTICES

YOUR OLDEST FEARS ARE THE WORST ONES

jenny holzer is so fucking cool!

FCW can be emotional eaters…

Here’s part of my Emotional Eating Story — and another FCW offer to help YOU if you are also an emotional eater!!

Last night, I was feeling a little overwhelmed & as well as just a little tipsy from a few glasses of wine. And my first instinct was to go to a store and buy some “junk food – ie, potato chips” to ease the feeling away … then I thought, no I’d rather have something warm, so I gave myself permission to have a $1 double cheeseburger from McDonalds …and I told myself when I got home I could eat of the Chocolate Puddings too!! Well, when I got home — I said no to the Pudding, just as I said no to the Junk food — I was only wanting to eat these because I didn’t want to “Feel” the anxiety that I’m feeling about my life — I’m really stepping into my life as an intuitive energy artist full time and its scary!! However, its the best I’ve ever felt — when I am able to let go of the “food” to numb my feelings, I’m really able to move into such a better feeling place. Emotional Eating is something we can over come!!
I took a work shop with Yiska who is running this call – she rocks! So if you feel like finding some outside support – this is a great option 🙂

Sending you lots of MPL Energy to fill you up!!

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More about the call-in support group:

If you struggle in your relationship with food and your weight, you are not alone. Thousands of people obsess about food and weight, overeating instead of communicating & craving the support of community. We’ve experienced the shame, the isolation and unconsciousness of this struggle, and we’ve learned how important supportive community is on the path to being the people we want to be.

A favorite teacher said, “life is not a one walk dog”. Everything takes practice. It is the daily practice of showing up and being committed to yourself that facilitates the process of transformation.

It is not about being perfect. We’ve created this daily check-in system to help you to stay connected, to share your thoughts, feelings and intentions, and be engaged in the daily practice of transforming your relationship with food and your life.

If you are ready to empower yourself, to be supported, to be honest and stop hiding this is the group call for you.

HOW IT WORKS:

* You call in to a group tele-conference line (details provided upon registration).
* The call starts every morning at 7:45 am EST*
* No call on Saturdays. Sunday group meets at 9 am.
* The call lasts for 20 minutes every day checking in with yourself and others, being supported and providing support for others with your presence.
* Daily attendance is recommended though not required for participation.
* Group size is intimite (limited to 6 participants).
* Just $10/week (The month is paid for in advance with a one-time charge of $40)

WHAT YOU GET:

* The daily support of a live tele-community dedicated to providing a space for authentic sharing and inspiration.
* The offering of a short daily meditation, inspirational quote or food for thought.
* The chance to speak confidentially and honestly about yourself and verbalize your intentions for the day with others who are on the same journey, sharing what you want to share based on your feelings, your experiences and your goals.
* No more excuses.

I’ve done a workshop with Yiska … and it rocks!!
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It takes 30 days to change a habit.
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38th Anniversary of Roe vs Wade!!

Thank You Supreme Court for passing this very IMPORTANT Law for the right to choose for US Citizens who are WOMEN!

And thank you to all of the women & men and various organizations who continue to make Abortion Legal in our country — it is our HUMAN right to make choices about how we live our lives. And it is OUR RESPONSIBILITY to take responsibility for our choices & rights — I encourage to all FCW (& the FCM that we love) to continue to speak up about, share and support A Woman’s Right to Choose.

Here are two FCW Society Organizations — for a great poster (or FB profile pic!!) and a great “call to action” email!

Feminist Majority – www.feminist.org

I love their slogan — “TRUST WOMEN!” This is so true — as women we need to trust ourselves and each other to be able to heal our planet. Right now we are in a place in time where we need to have faith & trust that we can find a place to co-habitat on this planet peacefully. Using this slogan really finds a way to shift some of the “political action” of this issue to find its “spiritual message” … yay!! That’s Magic Passion Love working in all of the women who created this campaign. Thank you!!

Radical Women www.RadicalWomen.org

Roe v. Wade: The Battle Continues

Dear Friend,

January 22 is the 38th anniversary of Roe v. Wade, the historic Supreme Court ruling that legalized abortion throughout the United States. This was a huge victory. Access to safe, legal abortion and freedom from forced sterilization are as fundamental as the right to breathe the air. No woman should ever need to apologize for taking action to control her own body and life.

Roe still stands, but it’s been a rough year for reproductive justice. The new federal health care system severely restricts insurance coverage for abortions. At the state level, according to the Center for Reproductive Rights, “legislatures considered and enacted some of the most extreme restrictions on abortion in recent memory, as well as passing laws creating many other significant new hurdles.” State legislatures and medical boards have created rules allowing pharmacists to refuse to fill birth-control prescriptions. Other measures include mandatory waiting periods, parental notification, allowing health care providers to refuse services related to abortion or contraception, and outright bans on abortion, even when a woman’s health is in danger.

There were a few bright spots. The District of Columbia reinstated public funding for abortions. Wisconsin mandated that sex education be medically accurate. And Colorado voters defeated an initiative that would have defined a fetus as a human being from the moment of conception.

But these are only skirmishes in an intensifying battle. The ultra-right has rallied its forces, fueled by economic depression, skyrocketing prices and desperate competition for jobs. They blame single moms, immigrants, people of color, queers, and unionists for society’s problems. A fundamental pillar of their ideology is misogyny. They strive to turn women into unskilled workers and unpaid breeders and nursemaids, whose lives can be ruled by husbands and fathers, pharmacists, and religious decrees.

Some women’s groups have sought to appease conservatives by claiming a shared interest in preventing abortions by increased access to contraception. This opportunist strategy has been a predictable failure that has merely fueled the far-right.

Other organizations have relied on Democratic politicians to defend women. But these allies have proven false. President Obama’s call to “end the polarizing debate on abortion” was a request to stop agitating for reproductive rights. In negotiations for federal healthcare legislation, Democrats bartered away abortion and allowed contraception to be eliminated from covered benefits. Debate still rages over whether contraceptives will be available without a co-pay under the federal Affordable Care Act. (Tell the Department of Health and Human Services what you think at http://www.hhs.gov/feedback.html).

To defeat the bigots, a powerful movement must be built to demand that women have the right to make the most crucial decisions about their lives. Visible, bold, multi-racial organizing is what won abortion rights and virtually every other gain of working people. That is what is needed today – in the streets, outside women’s clinics, in the media, and wherever our opponents raise their reactionary program.

Radical Women calls on feminists to join together to build a united front to stop the ultra-right. If you are interested in collaborating on this kind of effort, contact Anne or Margaret for National Radical Women at RadicalWomenUS@gmail.com or 206-722-6057.

FCW grapple with being pro-choice

What makes a woman an FCW? Most often the part the makes me feel woman “aren’t” fucking cool is if they are anti-choice. How can anyone not be PRO-Choice!!?? This is the one thing we all – men & women have are choices – and to deny anyone choice about their personal body is (to me) the biggest crime. We might have responsibilities/ideas that we don’t like/agree however, how we allow these circumstances to “affect” out lives is our CHOICE – this is the first choice we have. I understand that there are a lot of viewpoints about when LIFE begins and how could anyone be for “abortion”. I don’t feel like I could use abortion as birth control, however, I also know that I am not interested in having a baby so I do my best to have safe sex. It’s my choice to not to choose not to be a mother. It’s important to remember that being “pro-choice” isn’t always about abortion, its about choices – we all have the right to make decisions.

This is can be such tricky subject in certain circles and I applaud anyone who shows the courage to share personal stories about their own beliefs about abortion. When I read Victoria Moran‘s blog post in the Huffington Post, I was very inspired and interested in knowing more. I’m sending her lots of good energy to get the necessary steps completed so she can have her one woman show!

Here it is … visit Huffington Post read the rest!!
Abortion and Reverence for Life: Grappling with My Father’s ‘Other Job’

In 2009, the abortion rate in New York City was 41 percent of all pregnancies — twice the national average. That’s a lot of abortions. So many, in fact, that New York Archbishop Timothy Dolan has joined with other religious leaders in an effort to decrease the number. The fact that so prominent a member of the always-abolishionist Catholic Church would be involved in a push to simply lessen the incidence of abortion was heartening to me. It shows a degree of pragmatism coming from the religious institution I left as a teenager.

On the issue of abortion, I’m ever on the fence, or, at most, an inch or two to either side. My most firmly held value is what Albert Schweitzer termed “reverence for life.” I take this seriously; many would say that because I extend it to nonhumans, I take it too far. I don’t eat animals. I rescue strays and take injured pigeons to the wildlife rehab. I carry spiders and wasps outside in a cup covered with a 3×5 card. It would only follow that I’d take pause when contemplating the abrupt and apparently brutal ending of a tiny human being’s life, or even a potential human being’s life.

However, I am also a woman. I know that pregnancy protection can fail. It happened to me once. I was widowed, a single mom making ends meet — just meet — as a freelance magazine writer. I had a boyfriend and a libido, and the diaphragm (I was trying to be “natural”) didn’t do its job. I had an early miscarriage. If that hadn’t happened, I can’t say what I’d have done. I do know that women in that situation have, for millennia, found ways to abort pregnancies. Behind the centuries of witch burnings was fear of the village wise woman. Her herbs could cure diseases, and she could both bring new life into the world and, when the mother willed it, prevent that life from coming. That’s a lot of power in the hands of the “weaker sex.”

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/victoria-moran/abortion-reverence-life_b_808161.html

“Fe-Mail”

I love getting random emails from women who discover they are also FCW Society members — because when I check out their websites– OH MY!! They are so fucking cool!! This is what I discovered when browsing — incredible art & cleverness!

Check out Suzi Banks Baum, Artist Mom, living in the Berkshire Mountains of Western Massachusetts. She has 2 teenagers, a big garden, a small art business with my collaborator Karen Arp-Sandel, and one big honking life that she loves to share about on the Laundry Life.

Her art biz is “Fe-Mail” — which is absolutely beautiful and inspiring! The images are the collage post cards.

Fe-Mail” is the collaboration between Karen Arp Sandel and Suzi Banks Baum, 2 women artists living in the mountains along the state line between New York and Massachusetts. We began sending collage post cards to each other in February 2007, exploring many themes of common interest- the feminine figure, mandalas, the Divine Feminine, our yoga practices, poetry and inspirations borne in our women’s Moon Circle.

As artists, our mantra is “Art is not separate”.-

http://www.femailart.com